One of the leaders I coach, a President working closely with her company’s CEO, took a week off this summer. Before she left, she would have told you she was the person decisions ran through. Not because she wanted it that way. Because years of being useful had built it that way, one small rescue at a time.
You already know you are in the drama triangle. That is not the hard part anymore. The hard part is finding what you specifically have been doing that keeps it running. Here is what it actually feels like when the trigger lands.
My daughter is capable. I have always known this. I have said it out loud, written it in cards, meant it completely. And then I have walked into the kitchen while she was figuring something out and fixed it, because I could see the faster path and the hour was late and there were other things still waiting.
You do not need difficult people to sustain a Drama Triangle. You need good ones. People who care about the work, show up early, and take the mission personally. The triangle does not thrive because people are broken or ill-intentioned.